Let It Glow

“If someone pours gasoline on my fire, it will only glow brighter.”

That’s a powerful way to open a blog. Especially on a brand new site with no audience yet. But here we are. And honestly, what does that even mean?

I was talking to a close friend. He’s an ally, and he took the photos you see on this site. I was venting about something that had happened. Something that reminded me how hard it is to build something real when not everyone wants to see you succeed. Or they give you a million reasons why it’s not going to work. And who needs that energy around them?…NOT ME.

When you step out to create something meaningful, people will doubt you. They’ll minimize it. Dismiss it. Pretend it’s not worth paying attention to. Or quietly hope it falls apart. It’s actually very human of them and it’s for many different reasons. It isn’t your job to comfort when they doubt you.

Creating something with depth takes confidence, guts, and a kind of quiet rage that comes from surviving hard things. At certain points in my life, building this would have felt impossible. But I’ve been through worse. I know what it means to grind through. I know what it takes to start over.

I’ve been told I’m too intense. Too much. Too all over the place. I’ve been told I dream too big, that I’m not the right fit, that it will never work. Blah, Blah, Blah

I used to let that get to me. I don’t anymore.

This is my fire. My voice. My work. Whether someone tries to smother it or burn it down, I’ll use it. Because I know what it means to come back. I’ve done it over and over again. Each time, I glow brighter.

If you’re reading this, welcome to the glow. I’m just getting started. I have made a few tips for you when someone doesn’t see your vision.

Gritty Girl Tips: What to Do When Someone Doubts Your Work

1. Don’t explain it to people who already decided not to get it.
Save your energy. Protect your vision. Let the results speak.

2. Take notes, not permission.
Feedback is useful. So is instinct. You know the difference. Trust yourself more.

3. Document everything.
Screenshots. Conversations. Receipts. Not for revenge. For clarity. For closure. For power.

4. Build it anyway.
Even if they watch in silence. Even if they copy it. Even if they pretend it doesn’t exist. Keep building.

5. Channel it.
Not into rage. Into progress. Into the next rep, the next page, the next move. Fuel over fire.

Final Word

You don’t need to shrink to be safe. You don’t need to ask for permission to take up space. You don’t have to protect other peoples emotions when you are at your most creative. You deserve to lean into the things that make you happy.

You are allowed to build loudly. To heal messily. To keep showing up even when it rattles the people around you.

This is the work. This is the grit. And when you keep going through all of it, that’s when the glow hits.

Let it.